January 27, 2020

9 Steps You Need to Start Planning Your Wedding!

SO THAT YOU PLAN EVERY DETAIL YOU NEED FOR YOUR PERFECT DREAM WEDDING!

Smiling bridesmaids and groomsmen with the bride and groom taking pictures outside the church

I learned quite a few secrets from planning my wedding (as well as planning so many other brides'!), and I want to share them with you so that your wedding day is as amazing as possible!

Because this day is going to be one of the most special days in your entire life, and my whole heart's desire for you is that you enjoy every single moment! Both during the engagement and on your wedding day.

So let's make sure that happens!

P.S. Are you asking yourself, "Where should I even start? What should I do first? I'm so lost!!" then we have just what you need, girl. We're putting on a free wedding planning training just for you. Just click this link or the picture below to snag your spot and choose a good day and time!

1. Remember What Your Wedding is All About

The very first thing you need to do to start planning your wedding is to remember the REASON for even having a wedding at all. Girl, you found your Prince Charming! God has brought you the man of your dreams! You love each other so much that you want to spend the rest of your lives together! And your wedding is to celebrate this amazing union that you’re making.

It can be so hard to remember this most important thing and not let your mind get swept up in all the chaos, but if you can remind yourself what it’s really about, then you will enjoy your engagement so much more. You’ll see your wedding planning stress begin to melt away if you keep your eyes on marrying your best friend.

(To help give you peace of mind with all the planning, then our free training "How to Plan All the Details You Need for Your Wedding Day So You Can Enjoy Every Moment of It" would be perfect for you. Stop worrying about what to do next so that you can truly enjoy your engagement. ❤️)

2. Know What Your Perfect Dream Wedding Is

The second step to planning your wedding is to know what you actually want! Oh, we all know you’ve been secretly thinking about your wedding day a long time… 😉

So picture your dream wedding right now!

What do you want your special day to look like?
What do you want your dream wedding to sound like?
What do you want your wedding day to feel like?

And remember. This is YOUR day! Not your mom's. Not your future mother in-law's. Not your maid of honor's. Not your sister's. YOURS. Girl, give yourself permission to say yes to you. It's your day! ❤️

3. Have a Plan!

Bride and groom holding hands and walking away outside their wedding chapel underneath the trees

Girl. Let me just tell you this right up front.

If you don't have a plan going into your wedding planning, and you just wing it, then you will have stress. You will spend more money than you want than you want to. You will feel all over the place and want to pull your hair out.

There are so many pieces, so many details, and so many things to juggle when planning your wedding. In order to stay sane and not pull all your hair out, you have to come up with at least some sort of plan.

So the third thing you need to do when you start planning? ACTUALLY HAVE A PLAN!

So sit down with your fiancé. Think about what you both actually want. Which things are most important to you about your wedding? Plan out a timeline. Plan out your budget. Research wedding prices in your area. Figure out when you're going to look at venues and all your wedding vendors.

Don't procrastinate or wait too long to get these plans into place, because venues and wedding vendors book up very quickly! And it's a whole lot better to have too much time than too little.

P.S. If you’d like to use our specific wedding planning tools that we use to plan our brides’ dream weddings every single day, then click here to watch the free training where we show you how to plan your wedding the Dream Wedding Way. It will save you so much time, stress, and headache so that you can just relax and be a beautiful bride!

4. Don’t Have Shiny Object Syndrome!

Bride and groom interlocking pinkies to show off their wedding rings

This is the fourth step (a secret step, in my opinion!) for planning your wedding.

Oh my goodness, there are so many ideas out there, aren't there? So many things on Pinterest, on social media, on Google, on The Knot...

When I was engaged, I would see something and say, "Oh! I love that!" and then look at something else and say, "Oh! I love that, too!" Even if they were totally different looks or styles and totally didn’t fit together.

It's so easy to love everything! But you need to stop and think about who you are. What kind of wedding do you want? Which ideas actually fit your personality and your relationship?

Take some time off from looking for inspiration ideas or wedding magazines if you just can't seem to figure it out. It will only make you more confused, and we don't want that!

5. Stop Shopping After You Buy

Beautiful bride looking into the camera while her groom has his face pressed gently against her forehead

This wedding planning step is SOOOOO important! I've seen so many brides say yes to their perfect dress, choose the venue that they've dreamed of always getting married in, and put the deposit down on their gorgeous wedding cake...and then they still. Keep. Looking.

Look, my dear, I know how much fun it is to look at those gorgeous wedding dresses online. (I'm guilty of this myself!)

But when you continue to look after you've already made a decision, then it's so easy to become discontent or to doubt what you've already gotten.

There is always going to be something better out there. There's always going to be a more expensive dress. A venue with more string lights. A taller wedding cake.

But you need to think about the wedding that's perfect for you! And something in you got so excited and so giddy when you bought your dress and said yes to your venue!

So don't let that joy go away because you don't stop looking, okay?

6. Expect the Unexpected

Cards and gifts sign surrounded by wedding gifts on a table

Expecting the unexpected is one of the most helpful wedding planning steps out there. No matter how much time you put into planning every intricate detail, there will be something you don’t expect. That’s just the truth of it! This world isn’t perfect.

So, you can either respond by going into a panic and turning “bridezilla” because things aren’t going just right, OR you can simply accept it and let it roll off your shoulders.

If you decide from the start that you won’t let things get you down, then every part of your wedding will be so much more enjoyable for you!

To make sure that you don’t forget anything and no detail slips past you, our free wedding planning training would be so helpful for you! Click here to register and make sure you aren't missing anything you need for your special day.

7. Spend Time with People You Love

Happy bride standing with her smiling bridesmaids outside under the trees

This step needs to be allllllll up in your wedding planning, haha.

Make sure to set aside time to still have date nights with your fiancé! It can be so easy to spend all your time planning for the wedding, but make sure to use your engagement to create a strong foundation for your future marriage.

As far as friends and family go, make sure to have conversations with them not even related to the wedding (especially if they're trying to take it over!). Go see a movie, or go grab some coffee! It will save you some stress and help you grow closer during this time. And it will help keep your life in balance.

8. Don't Get Caught Up in the Details

Beautiful wedding invitation with the bride's and groom's wedding rings laying on top

Oh my goodness, this is suuuuuuuuch an important step! Because we all know that there's a crazy number of things on the list of wedding planning!

But I want to encourage you no matter how much all those details scream at you for their attention, don't let them get to you. Choose to focus on the most important thing! You get to marry the love of your life! Gosh, can you believe you finally found him? Isn't it amazing?! So hold onto that feeling! Hold onto that joy!

At the end of the day, it's not going to matter what color the bridesmaids' dresses were. It's not going to matter when Uncle Bob walked down the aisle. The only thing that really matters is you forming this union and making this everlasting commitment with the man of your dreams!

So decide right now that nothing, not even all of these tasks, will keep you from feeling that excitement and that joy!

9. Don’t Do It Alone

Bride and groom holding hands on the side of a door looking away from each other and praying together

This is the MOST important step you need to take in order to plan your Perfect Dream Wedding!

If you’re feeling overwhelmed with all the planning, if you’d like some guidance and something to show you the steps, if you just aren’t sure how to put everything together, then we’re here for you!

And that's why we're putting on our free training just for you: "How to Plan All the Details You Need for Your Wedding Day So You Can Enjoy Every Moment of It!" If you don't know where to start, if your excitement is starting to diminish because of all the drama and opinions flying everywhere, and if you just want to make sure you have all the details thought of, then you need to be there!

Click this link to register, and we'll see you there! :)

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